Saturday, March 7, 2009

Dear Sami, March

Life with you is so much fun.  

Lately you have been really into fashion . . . you pick out your clothes and dress yourself, and I always wait expectantly to see what you will be wearing each day.

You are pretty open-minded and willing to bend some fashion rules.  

I like that about you.

Your only requirement lately is that you MUST be wearing a SKIRT at all times.  If it's cold and we're going out, you wear a skirt over pants.  When you go to bed, you wear a skirt over your pajamas.
Your Nana got you a bunch of skirts from Goodwill and I put them in a basket in your closet, so all day long, as the event requires, you can change from one skirt to another, and from rainboots to cowboy boots to sparkle shoes to crocs . . . you understand the more sublime role that shoes can play in making an outfit work.
You have a refined appreciation for patterns.
It seems lately all of this skirt-wearing combined with a basket of scarves that your Nana gave you, is connecting you to a distant branch of your family tree . . . the Amish.  Most three-year old girls want to be a princess, but not you.  You want to be an Amish girl.  Her name is Fannie Mae.  Fannie Mae is really into these scarves.  Scarves can be used for a variety of things . . . most notably, headscarves.  This appeals to you in ways I cannot quite comprehend.  I have taken the basket of scarves and tied them around you for dresses, or turned on music and let you dance with them swirling around you . . . but really, you just prefer to wear them on your head.   Even when we go out.  Providing me with no shortage of startled looks that read something like look-at-that-poor-child-being-raised-in-a-cult . . . I just small and say, "hold my hand, Fannie Mae."

I love the book we got at the library this week, about Molly Lou Melon . . . 
Her grandma had told her,
 "Walk as proudly as you can and the world will look up to you." 
So she did.
. . . "Smile big and the world will smile right alongside you."
So she did.
. . . "Believe in yourself and the world will believe in you too."
So she did.

You mama is going to try her best to teach you this most important lesson, and the hardest battle you will fight . . . to be true to yourself.  
Always be YOU, Sam.
Because YOU is exactly what the world needs.
I love you, and I love who you are and who you are going to become. 


Becky said...

as always, so good to read your blog. i think you should tell fannie mae that her scarves are erring on the fancy side for such plain folk. =) have a happy day! luv ya, becky

Betty said...

That's great! I love that you let her have that freedom to decide what her "style" is. Such a sweet post.

charrette said...

She is fabulous! Partly because you encourage her to be her best self. You are an excellent mother. One in a million.

pleiades said...

love the pictures and your words. it's scary when i think about raising my children to love themselves and be themselves. i like that molly lou melon book, i wish they had a version for boys.

Fijufic said...

Such a lovely post. I'm so glad I found it.


becomingkate said...

She is so sweet!
And you know, I am 44 and STILL loving the skirts, lol.

Maggsworld said...

What a wodnerful letter. This is a treasure lying in wait for your little girl. Maggs