And it got me thinking . . . and Jim and I talking . . . about marriage.
It was in the midst of a conversation about another friend, a single friend, one who would very much like to be married, and Jim said, "it's not what he thinks it will be . . . ". And I didn't get weepy or storm off or burst into tears when he said this, because I knew exactly what he meant.
You are still responsible for your own happiness.
There you go, that's my marital wisdom . . . to anyone single, or married, or wishing they were married, or wishing they weren't married, if you ever wanted to know what I think about marriage, there it is . . . You alone decide how happy you will be, regardless of who, or if, you marry.
(I think maybe this came across too harsh . . . there are very sad marriage stories, I don't ever want to minimize the hurt or sadness involved in some relationships).