(these two wear me out, but they are so. much. fun.)
The past two weeks have been slightly insane. (I keep thinking of Salinger who wrote that "every mother is slightly insane" and that sums up every parenting tidbit or piece of mothering advice I can think of at the moment).
So hardly anything has been accomplished around here lately, but these are some random things I've been thinking:
1. Wow, my kids are strong-willed! Along with not sleeping, both Sam and Annie, in completely different ways are revealing their "personalities" ahem and I am about beside myself to know what to do about it! The hard part is being really confidant about what is the right way to handle things, and no matter what I feel like I didn't do it right . . . ugh, the guilt that comes with being a parent!
This is one thought from the book, Kids Are Worth It , that I love:
Strong-willed children are never easily led by anybody- not by you, but also not by their peers. So celebrate your child's strength of will throughout the early years, and when the going gets tough for both of you, give that strong-willed child a hug and know that the independent thinking you are fostering will serve him well in the teen years.Oh I hope so!
2. The best friends are they who will see your child at her worst, and still love your child.
I am very aware lately of how much my friendships enrich my life, of my need for community, and especially of my need for "safe" friends, friends who I am confidant aren't judging me, who I can be honest with my failures and imperfections and who will be honest with me. And as a mom, I need friends who love my kids and aren't judging them, either.
This week a friend was here with her children when one of mine displayed the full spectrum of her will in all it's glory. It was one terrific fit, let me tell you, and as always I questioned after if I handled it correctly. Thankfully, this is the kind of friend who I didn't have to be embarrassed with or feel judged by, one who I can talk openly with about all kinds of things, and who was still loving on my kids the rest of the day.
I think that in the midst of these messes my kids and I are both learning about repentance and forgiveness, what it is to feel sorry for your behavior and then to know you are forgiven, and how that plays out in our family or community. I was so thankful for this friend who was able to demonstrate that kind of love to my child that day.